Inspired by reading Living on the edge by Chip Ingram
Each of us is unique and born with gifts and talents that stems mainly from our genetic history. Then life happens and the combination of our experiences and life challenges mould our character and develop and sharpen our skills. Add to this our relationships and emotions and it is no wonder each of us is unique.
On this journey called life we are all so different but there are also three important questions that most of us share on this road.
1. Who am I?
2. Where do I belong?
3. What am I supposed to do?
These questions are always in the background, even if unconsciously but surface as we look at the crossroads ahead around 50. These are deep questions and take time, energy and often much reflection. We don’t always like what we see. I will unpack these questions for you so that you can take time to look at you own life.
Who am I?
The first one is about identity. How do you introduce yourself to others? Most of us define ourselves by what we do rather than who we are. The title you have in the world of work will fall away in the future and you will need time to reflect on who you are without the title.
Where do I belong?
Belonging is about security. This is such a deep human need but does change and morph over the seasons of life. Family is crucial but our global village does change this picture on a physical level for many and their family are not always close by. You may no longer be married and this too changes relationships on so many levels. You may move out of your family home and need to build a life in a new community. The questions and scenarios are endless.
What am I supposed to do with my life?
The third question addresses significance. Why am I here? What legacy will I leave behind? Defining and discovering your purpose in this phase of life is literally a life saver. To be able to get up each day with a reason and to feel needed is critical. This improves your physical and mental health and there is much research to prove that this is one of the keys to longevity.
These questions remained unanswered by many citizens on planet earth.
These questions are not easy nor do they have easy answers. It takes commitment, pain, conversations and much time alone to try and navigate the way.
We each are given the responsibility of our one life. There are no second chances. The greatest gift you can give yourself is to try and work through these questions.